'Ello there!

So I know, I'm a bad person. I haven't been on to blog in forever! But just so you know, I have been busy. Between redoing my hallway closet, babysitting, working on a school project, AP homework, and just plain chilling, I've been awfully busy. But here is a post that should tide you over a little bit :)

BRINA TALKS ABOUT DATING!!!!!!!
So one of my best friends had been dating this guy for the past year, actually over a year. And they were an awesome couple, they worked together in the relationship, it wasn't just one side putting in the effort. She let him hang out with his friends, and he let her hang out with hers. And he would even come with her to some of her friends parties, even though not all us liked him, he would go to make her happy. And they were cute too. So then, in June, he suddenly says, I don't feel a spark anymore. Lets break up, because I don't want to hurt you. Okay fair enough, maybe he just doesn't feel anything, I mean they've been together for a year, maybe he got bored or something. It wasn't even that he wasn't getting any though, they were having sex! Anyway they broke up. They talked about it after and decided to be best friends. So then this week, he gets a new profile picture. Its of him and some chick. My friend gets a little angry, but oh well, maybe they're just friends right. Wrong. Then yesterday, I get a message saying, Hes in a relationship with the girl in the pic, and I'm all...Fuck no, he cheated on her while they were in the relationship and that's why he broke up with her. I didn't tell her that though. So then she messaged him and is all, guess you never loved me and blah blah blah, and he goes, well I didn't come on to her, she came on to me. BS, right? Anyway the moral of this long and drawn out story, is that every relationship comes with the things guys and girls should always do, and should never do. And each of those was apparent in there relationship. So here is my small list of dating do's and don'ts.
Do's:

1. Do always listen to your partner. Even if you're really not interested in what they're saying, just listen, because it might either come up later when he/she asks about what you two were talking about, or it might give you some insight on them or just give you guys something to talk about in general. I know some people do not like gossip, but sometimes it might be funny to know that so and so when they were having sex with so and so like sprained there something or another. ;)
2. Do things that you might not always be interested in, but they are. They want to go see a entirely action packed, car chase filled movie, do it. Hell even ask if they want to go see it. Its just something for you two to do together that's fun for at least one of you and makes him/ her happy.
3. Do let them hang out with there friends. If they want to go hang out with there buddies, let them, if he gets up to mischief, then he does. You are not his/her mother, or even in control of him/her. If they want to hang out somewhere where there is people of the opposite sex, let them. Trust them to not do anything stupid, if he/she does do something stupid. Then its there own problem because they missed out on having a great relationship with you.
4. You guys are partners in the relationship. Its not always up to one person to plan the dates, same as its not always up to one person to buy the chocolate on valentines day. Share the love!

Don'ts:

1. Don't ever have two partners at the same time because chances are one of your friends will let something slip, or they'll meet eachother, or something will happen and you'll be single.
2. Don't cheat. If you find yourself falling for another person, break up with the first one because if you truly loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.
3. Don't ever try to cover your sorry ass with a lie because somehow you will get found out. And don't make up a BS response to why you suddenly have a new partner. We all know you were scoping her out long before.
4. Don't ever put up with an abusive relationship. You're always going to think, I know he/she is better than this. He/she is a better person. He/she brings me flowers after. He/she says sorry. We have great make-up sex. And you will probably say this until the day you end up in the hospital. Or even after that, when you go back to him/ her because they said sorry and they "really" seemed like they mean it. Hell in your head you will probably think when he/she is screaming in your ear and hitting you and abusing you, this isn't him/ her. But it is and that will always be a part of them. It doesn't mean you have to put up with it.

That's all for today. Have a lovely day my dears!  Love you all!