I'm moving and changing!

So I am moving to a different blog, http://luvlifelaughter.blogspot.com/! It is still me, but it's more uplifting an less of the advice I do on here. But you all know that it will be the same blunt as anything sarcastic me that it is now! So please come check me out! I will be posting every single day. Love you all! :)

Butterfly wall art thingy DIY

So I promised a lighter post, so here it is! I was feeling inspired and for lack of a better thing to do, well I had homework, but that doesn't count, I decided to create a big old wall decoration. Now I got the original idea from a random pinterest photo where someone took and made a rainbow out of butterfly cut outs. I took that idea one step further and put quotes and inspirational words on every single of the 70 colorful butterflies. And I took pictures along the whole process for you all!

So here is my original materials. I just found an easy butterfly template online because while I can draw butterflies they aren't nearly as pretty as this one. Then I have a bunch of construction paper. I ended up just doing 1 sheet each of light pink, red, orange, yellow, green, light blue, blue and two sheets of black. Then a marker to trace and a pair of scissors to cut out. Later on you're going to either need that same marker, or what I used, a sharpie, to write your quotes. You'll also need some way to hang them up, I used scotch tape.

So your next step after the gathering of materials will be to trace out your butterflies. I managed to fit 10 on each page, and then with the black because I squished them I got 11 on each sheet. So in the end I had 92 butterflies. You can do more or even less than that. Warning: This step takes forever! I took I bunch of breaks in between to do other things and then came back to it.

Here is all my pretty cut out butterflies! Now its your time to search around, find any quotes or words that you like. I looked on tumblr and weheartit, and then also took a few quotes from books and songs. This is the fun part :)

Here's an example of one of mine. You can do them in pretty script, in messy, you can put huge quotes, or just words like this one. Anything you want. Now this next picture is going to look like a jump because I forgot to include the middle steps. So I will just tell you them. You aren't going to want flat butterflies as your wall art, or maybe you do, don't really know. Anyway this comes to a dilemma, if you just fold them in half, there is not really a big place for the tape to stick to. So what I did was fold on wing over less than half an inch under the other wing, then repeated it with the other side. That will give you a rectangle where the body of the butterfly would normally go. That way you can put tape there. 

So then here is the final result. I moved up in a rainbow pattern and then put the black butterflies along the side because I though the butterfly rainbow in the white looked weird. But when it comes to hanging up your butterflies you can really do anything with them. Put them sporadically around your room. Hang them from your ceiling with fishing wire. Put them in a different pattern. Its really all up to you.

Anyway I hope you all liked this! And I actually really liked doing this, maybe I should do more? Tell me in the poll up in the right corner. Love ya guys, bye!

-Brina

Self Image

       Self Image. It's something that comes a lot into a question lately when it comes to girls. Look at the images we have for role models. These perfectly proportioned, flat stomached, perfect skinned models. Sorry to break it to you, but that isn't real life. And I don't know about you, but lately I've been questioning how pretty that really is.

       I know we can sit there and stare at Vogue and go, "Oh I want to look beautiful and sexy like the girl in the Georgio Armani perfume ad" (Though really who looks at the girl, the guy is always extremely sexy). And then somehow we always manage to glance up into the mirror and go, "I'm not perfect like that." WRONG Ladies. You are perfect like that. Half of these models are photo shopped as hell  and aren't even real people. You are a real person and beautiful at that.

      But back to how you see yourself. This post came into mind because I was hanging with a guy friend of mine, and he began to call himself fat. This wouldn't be as big of a deal if he had any meat on his bones, but he doesn't. He is 6 foot one and only 140 pounds. That's almost underweight. And that is so unbelievably scary to me because I don't want to watch one of my closest friends waste away. So what I did in response is to crawl over to him (we were sitting on the ground) and lift up his shirt, following protests of me not to. You could see every rib, though not as bad as before, and he had zero fat there. He was sitting with his legs curled up, there should have been something. There was nothing. And this is what girls try and say. They try and say they're fat when there is nothing there to be ashamed of, nothing there to be afraid to show. They keep saying I'm fat until the moment they're in the hospital with a tube down they're throat.

      I don't want to see that happen to anyone. Not any of my readers, not any of my friends, not anyone I see on the street. So this is me, the girl next door, the girl who sits next to you in math, your best friend, standing in front of you saying this. You are beautiful, perfect amazing, and holy shit stunning as hell. I want hair like yours, it frames your face perfectly. Your eyes are bright and shining and they're what I look at first. Your boobs, damn girl, if I wasn't straight ;) Your legs are sexy as hell and you deserve to strut with those as much as you can. Plus it makes your great ass look even better.

      Don't you dare think I'm lying. Don't shut me out right now, because I'm not lying. I'm what the voice in your head should be saying, but is hindered from doing so because society's image of what you should be, isn't exactly what you are. But who the fuck cares what they think of you, because they're all narrow minded idiots who are criticizing you because they are unhappy with themselves. Everyone is different, but everyone is their own special kind of gorgeous. And you my dear are a very special person.

      So before the voice in your head starts criticizing your beauty, remember me. I know I might not be much, but where there's one, there's many. I think your gorgeous. Half the guys probably do too. The girl who's teasing you sure as hell does because that's why she's hurting you. The people that say things, they're blind. The magazines that put up the pictures of the slim girls with zero curves and say they're real, are moronic. They can all get over their shit. And open there eyes and see the amazing person in front of them.

      To end this I just want to share a little something. I've said before that I once believed what I'm telling you not too. I wasn't happy with me. And a lot of that had to do with environment, I was surrounded by people who were very skinny and expected me to be too. But when I got into high school, I realized fully that people come in all shapes and sizes. And colors and eyes and hair and noses and personalities. We're all different and that realization is what helped me the most. Took a long time, took me until sophomore year to take off my huge grey sweatshirt, but I finally realized we're all different for a reason, and everyone is beautiful in their own special way. And so are you. I don't give a damn if in your head right now you are second guessing every word I say, it's all true. And someday I promise you'll believe me.

Love you guys, and I promise a lighter post soon! :)

-Brina

Kissing!

I have realized that I haven't done a post on kissing yet, and this is something that I am very passionate about. So a little background on my kissing experiences. My first kiss was when I was 11, the guy was 15. It was one of those kind just having your mouths pressed to each other and having a tiny bit of tongue motion going on, not enough to be a French kiss however. My next kiss(es) came from my boyfriend when I was 12, to tell the truth, we were more friends with benefits than boyfriend and girlfriend, we never went on a date, but we did kiss, a lot. He was a really bad kisser, one of those that has their mouth open to big, and slobbers. Literally, I'd end up with a ring of slobber around my mouth, it was disgusting. But I liked the guy, we kissed a lot. I got to second base with this guy, he felt my boobs and saw my boobs, all those lovely things. (In case you wanted to know, we ended up breaking up 4 months in because he was hitting on other people more than he was hitting on me.) Now my last kiss was just last week, and oh my goodness was it good. I'll go more into it in a bit, because that instance is a big part of what I’m drawing my advice from. So now you’re thinking, she has only kissed 3 people, how the hell is she experienced? Love, I have friends who have kissed many people, and I have friends who have gone farther than kissing. They're advice is mingled in here. So anyway, you've been living under a rock, right? Because you have no idea what kissing is! Well your Auntie Brina is here to help. For those of you who know what this lovely life experience is, keep reading there is many kissing tips to come! :D

Dictionary Definition: touch with the lips as a sign of love, sexual desire, reverence, or greeting.

Urban Dictionary Definitions:

1.      The act of expressing desire and passion for another. Kisses can be strong and passionate, very heated, backed by strong desire. Or they can be soft and gentle, there is a longing for more, but little is more. (Erica)

2.      The sweetest thing a guy can do without being an ass. (ILOVEKISSES)

My Definition: Touching your lips to someone else’s in a moment of passion or a dare, or because you feel it’s the right thing to do in that moment.

      This brings me into my long guide to kissing! You guys ready?

Reasons why to kiss:

1.      You’re desperately/ madly in love with the person. If you are this in love, you are probably already kissing them, but maybe not.

2.      It’s a dare. Not quite as lovely and romantical, but it could still be fun ;)

3.      It’s the end of a date, and the other person is saying goodnight. This could end up being a make-out session (That was a really good date and you are really sexually attracted), a quick peck (you’re cute and shy and it was still a really good date), a peck on the cheek (Oh sweetie, the date either sucked, was a cute date, you’re not attracted to him, or you are very shy or they are), a hug (you guys went out as friends, you’re not comfortable kissing him on the first date, they are just so huggable), you walk away without any sign of affection and shut the door (That was a really shitty date, they’re a horrible person, or your parent is on the front step with a shotgun)

4.      You just feel like kissing someone. This is perfectly okay just as long as the other person knows that you don’t actually like them and you just are amazing sexually attracted to them.

Reasons why not to kiss:

1.      You know the other person likes you, and you are just looking for a good time. This will result in very hurt feelings and no chance of a repeat.

2.      You just broke up with your significant other and you’re looking for a rebound because you’re upset. Once again with the hurt feelings.

3.      You feel obligated to. You guys have been going out for a week/a month/a year/ a day and your friends are all “What? You haven’t kissed so and so yet? You’re so innocent.” Don’t listen to them, kiss when you feel ready. Or if your significant other is freaking out because they haven’t gotten some in a while and you’re not giving them any. Even if they say that they’ll break up with you if you don’t do it, they’re just peer pressuring you.

4.      They’re someone else’s significant other. Even if they tell you that they’re in an open relationship with the other person, don’t do it. You could wind up with your ass beat.

Types of kisses:

To be completely honest, I don’t know the names of half of the kisses I do, I just do them. And if you go in there with a list in your head of kisses you are definitely going to do, it won’t make the experience spontaneous or nearly half as enjoyable. These are just kisses that I have had and enjoyed.J

The hickey: A hickey is basically someone sucking and/or biting on a body part of yours so it leaves a bruise. Well I can’t say that I’ve actually gotten one of these. When I was making out with this guy, he started to give me one, but I didn’t let him. Let me tell you why. It felt amazing, and this is coming from a girl who hates having her neck touched. It was the biggest turn on, on the planet, however ladies if you don’t have foundation don’t let your boy give you a hickey. Me and the guy I was kissing number one weren’t supposed to be kissing, number two I don’t have good foundation. Now if you don’t have foundation and you do end up with a hickey, there’s a few things to try. There’s the classic, I burned my neck with a curling iron or straightener excuse, you could try and just powder it, or you can just wear something that covers it up. Don’t put your hair in a ponytail that day.  

The French kiss: I could probably write pages on this kiss. It’s the one where its open and you put your tongue in the other person’s mouth. Rather than go on rambling on the bad ones that I’ve had and the great ones that I’ve had, I’d rather go with a quick list of tips J

1.      Swallow beforehand. Last thing you want is your person to feel like they’re making out with a cup of water. Then they end up with this ring of slobber around there mouth and it just isn’t fun.

2.      Be mindful of your tongue. Keep it moving, there’s nothing worse than a flaccid tongue in your mouth. It feels like a slug. Also do not take it and shove it down there throat. It isn’t pleasant and if they have an easily triggered gag reflex you might cause them to throw up. Fast, kind of flicking motions or circles is always good.

3.      Breathe. You don’t want to pass out in the middle of making out with someone. Either master the art of breathing through your nose, or take breaks. I have a bad habit of talking when I need a break, but that isn’t always a bad thing. Or I’ll lean back and kiss him on the cheek or chest. Just remember breathing is important.

4.      This will come up more in the touching section of this, but don’t forget to keep your hands moving. It adds more to the experience.

The kiss where the person bites your lip or you bite there’s: Holy hell this is the sexiest thing on the planet. The guy last week, let’s call him Mr. Last guy, did it and it is so hot and just damn. I don’t know how he did it, I’m just putting it out there if you want to majorly turn on your partner kind of suck there bottom lip into your mouth and bite softly. I think that’s how he did it, hell I don’t even know. I just think it’s amazing.

I surprisingly can’t think of anymore types of kissing specifically. Everything gets thrown into those. However there is much more to kissing. Specifically touching. I have to admit, I like being touched. I like being felt up and maybe that’s because the two guys who I’ve really kissed are very touchy feely. They’re ass and boob grabbers and that’s okay with me. Some people will when they kiss you like something to hold onto. But if you don’t like that, don’t very be afraid to tell whoever it is that that isn’t okay with you. And if they get upset by that, then they weren’t worthy of your kiss to begin with. Anyway back to my advice on touching. Here’s my tips J

1.      You know the thing they do in movie where the guy lifts up the girl so he’s basically holding her up by the thighs/ass and she’s straddling him. Yeah, if you ever find a partner strong enough to do this and theres a moment where they will. Take it. Seize that moment by the balls and go for it. Because it is the hottest thing on the planet.

2.      Boob grabbing. People will vary in how they do it. Some, Mr. Middle guy in my relationship past, are really gentle. Like if they’re barely touching you. Mr. Last guy went the completely different direction and was rough. I like his way. I like a guy seeming like they are in control. I’m about to be really blunt here, but I am going to quickly explain how to not put your mouth on a girls boob. Do not act like you are giving your auntie a kiss. That is as far as I am going with this, you can figure out how to work a girls boob on your own other than that. Just girls, know that they will vary in technique, but if you tell them how you like it, they will most likely listen.

3.      Ass grabbing. This is always a it happens in my relationships. My first kiss with Mr. middle guy he grabbed my ass. It’s not really a big deal and the only advice I can really give for it, is no nails, please. Nobody wants little crescent moons in there ass. Just putting that out there.

4.      Hands. Keep them moving. Touch their stomach, their neck, and their legs, touch it all. It makes all of them feel wanted. Plus it’s a bit of a distraction when you both need to breathe. My tip with this is to keep your touch light on tenderer areas, it should just kind of feel like you are running a feather over them.

5.      Okay, I almost forgot to bring this up, but I can’t leave it out. There is one specific area where some people just love to go. And sometimes it’s after a while of dating, sometimes they try to do the first kiss. (That isn’t a keeper) You all know what I’m talking about. Your “Virginia” as a very good friend of mine calls hers. All I can say, because I don’t know what all girls want when its being touched is, don’t be too rough. And if she says no, stop immediately, and unless she brings your hand back down her herself don’t go for the gold again. And don’t make her feel bad because she won’t let your hand meet Virginia just yet.

I think I’ve covered most of it now. There could possibly be a part two if I realize I forgot something, but I hope I helped you all out, just a bit. Love you all, and hopefully talk to you soon! There has been a lot of stupid drama going on so I haven’t had time to write, but hopefully this long post makes up for it.